AITA Part Three

sheus18529

AITA for leaving during a rosary deticated to my wife’s deceased father?

My wife (23F) and I (22M) got married earlier this year (dating for four years) and things has honestly been amazing. This week, her dad died due to a long fight of cancer . My wife was completely destroyed.

We are religious (Catholics), so last night we had a rosary for the dead at our house. This was a very emotional time. My wife was sitting next to me, very upset, but finding a small comfort in the prayers.

We were praying when we heard a really loud sound of glass breaking from the backyard. My first thought was, "Someone is breaking in!" I instantly felt the need to check it to make sure my wife and I were safe from a burglar or something dangerous. If you hear glass smash, you check it RIGHT??

I quickly got up and went to the back. It wasn't a burglar, it was just some kids who broke the window by mistake. I spent about 5 to 7 minutes outside sorting it out. I needed to get their information so they would pay for the broken glass.

When I came back inside, my wife was no longer praying and my wife partner was just staring at me with a furious look.

I went to her and said I was sorry, explaining that kids broke the window and I was scared it was a break-in. She immediately cut me off and asked, "How could you leave now? this is a quiet neighborhood why would anything happen here? Why would you leave this important moment for a stupid piece of glass?"

I tried to explain that my worry about safety made me leave, but she didn't want to hear it. She felt I chose the window over being there for her during a horrible time of her life.

She's now staying with her sister and won't answer my texts.

I feel like a terrible husband , but I honestly don’t think I’m much in the wrong, i just wanted to make sure we weren't in danger, but I could see how she could’ve felt abandoned and maybe could’ve felt like I didn’t care about her dads passing. I’m getting texts from her family and friends that I was being a dick and I didn’t care about her feelings.

AITA?

As far as I can see, you have done nothing wrong. I  would have done the same thing if a window in my house randomly broke and my dad would have done the same (he was a cop), safe neighborhood or no. It’s the responsible thing to do and you needed to get the information from the kids who broke your window. At the same time I sympathize with your wife. She is obviously grief-stricken, blinded by it, and when you are grieving sometimes you need someone to blame. Anger is one of the stages of grief and unfortunately right now it seems to be directed at you. That does not make you the asshole though. I’m sorry, OP, and I hope it gets better.

r/AmItheAsshole • 6h ago

That-Scientist8449

AITA for not letting my homeless friend stay at my parents house?

I have an old friend from high school, I'll name her Sarah. Sarah and I were briefly friends when we were 16. Over the course of 17 years, we messaged each other no more than 10 times. Recently, she reached out to me and asked for my parents number because she had a legal question about copyrighting an idea she has (my parents are attorneys). Months later, she showed up at my parents house unannounced. She told my parents she has no where to go and wanted to stay the night. My dad doesn't remember her and essentially, she's a stranger. She was having a mental breakdown and claimed she took a bus from Texas to Illinois and her plan was to go to Iowa to see her mom. She gave my parents her moms number, I called and the woman doesn't know Sarah. She lied. Also, I’m not sure she’s telling the truth because why stop in Illinois? She used to live here but still doesn’t add up. Originally, my mom offered to put her up in a hotel for one night but I told her to avoid doing that out of fear that she could hurt herself. My mom took her to the police where a social worker evaluated her and recommended taking her to the hospital. She refused. She also refused going to a shelter. I convinced my mom to give her some money for food, bus ticket, clothes, etc. my mom gave her $160.

Sarah was very upset with me for interfering. She blocked me on Facebook (even though she claimed to not have a phone). I feel terrible because it was cold and not sure if my suggestions were ethical. I’m concerned she is going to come back to my parents and if she does, I’m unsure what to do.

AITA for having my parents turn her away?

Edit: Sarah never reached out to me first, she randomly showed up at my parents. I live an hour away from my parents and offered to come to their house but they rejected my offer because they were already at the police station.

You are not the asshole. This woman sounds like she is  mentally ill and/or a liar. If she is a danger to herself she could be a danger to others.  If she refuses a bed at the hospital (which by the way can be really hard to get) that does not entitle her to a spot at your house or your parents house. It sounds like you’ve already done alot for her. She is not the responsibility or your parents. Not the asshole.

Zealousideal_Pen8983

AITA for being upset that my friend essentially called my mom a bad person for looking older than her age?

Not the A-hole

My friend (18F) came to my house for a spa day. As my mom was bringing us popcorn and face masks, my friend started talking about how she believes people’s insides begin to match their outsides in middle and old age. She said wrinkles are the result of frowning and holding your face in negative expressions, so if you look older than your age, it’s typically due to living a life of negativity and hate.

Right as my mom walked away, she asked me “how old is your mom.” I answered and she said “she looks much older. Her glabellar lines and age spots seem more like those of a woman in her sixties.” I said “are you calling my mom a bitch because she has wrinkles?” She said no, that it’s just an observation. I said my mom has survived several life-threatening illnesses in the past ten years, which tends to affect the appearance, and that I find her comments disgusting.

She said I need to calm down because it’s not that deep, and that it’s hard being friends with me because I’m so reactive. AITA for thinking she’s calling my mom a bad person?

I don’t know if your friend meant to insult your mom on purpose. Regardless, it is an incredibly rude thing to say. I am very protective of my mom and if someone says something that could be construed as an insult I will get pissed off. Your friend is a guest in your house. And your mom is freakin bringing you guys popcorn and face masks. Sounds like a nice mom! Not the asshole.