This or That

Disclaimer: I collect “this or thats” and have an extensive collection. I didn’t exactly keep track of where I got everything but I would like to say I did NOT make these up, I am only answering them for entertainment purposes. 

Miss your flight or lose your luggage. 

I’d rather miss my flight. I spent a lot of money (and time) building a wardrobe that looks good on me. Not to mention I tend to get attached to belongings. Worse yet, what if one of my journals is in that bag? What if a potential bestseller is in that luggage (surely I would not be so careless!). You could always catch another flight. It’s a grim situation for your luggage. 

Monday meetings or Friday meetings:

Friday meetings because Mondays are too grim as they are. Plus everyone would be so excited to start the weekend that there would be a helpful buzzing that generates new ideas. Plus there would be bagels. My fictional meetings always have bagels.

Always  know the truth or always be happy:

I think I’m supposed to be wise and self-sacrificing and pick truth. After all I don’t really want to be lied to by a person or society. However, I want to be happy as long as my happiness isn’t hurting anyone else. I don’t want to be happy at the expense of others and I don’t want the truth to come at the expense of mine. So maybe happily in the middle?

Fall in love fast or take your time:

So many times I have fallen fast and hard, so hard I’d get up with bruises (metaphorical bruises). With Justin it was nothing like that. When I first met Justin I had a feeling he was special. He was polite, he was sweet, he was funny. He was terrified of my dad but came in on the second date  to play cards with me, my dad and my cousins. It took several months for us to exchange the “l” word whereas in the past it had come as soon as a few days. “When you know you know” I used to say. Now I’m a fan of waiting before you get into something that might potentially be not such a good thing. Justin was a good thing.

Give second chances or move on:

I gave my best friend a second chance. I anticipated it would be like old days where we would hang out, tease each other and give unconditional support. But he was always making me feel like I owed him something for being friends with me or like he didn’t even want to be friends with me anymore. I was getting pretty frustrated when he accused my mom of having Munchousan’s by proxy, which was both nasty and untrue. Finally, I tried to tell him about an incident that happened to me involving my ex boyfriend and he blocked me. Without listening, without explanation. We haven’t spoken in at least five years. Next time  he friends me on Facebook I’m not saying yes.

Would you rather get a tattoo or piercing?

Now me and piercings have a complex relationship. Apparently my body rejects my piercings and the holes instantly close up. I have gotten my ears pierced three separate times and they all closed up. I would like a tattoo, specifically a semi- colon tattoo (stands for continuing your life when you could have ended it). My mom doesn’t want me getting it on my wrist which is where I wanted it to cover up the scar marks. She thinks people will see it and think I’m vulnerable. So if I do get it I might get it on my shoulder. 

Be someone’s secret. Been there or would never?:

Been there. Again and again and again. Some of the guys had girlfriends. Some didn’t like the age difference. Some wanted to be free to play the field without being “tied down” I will own it was my fault for putting myself in that position because for the most part most of these guys were my friends and it was a FWB (friends with benefits) situation. I’m still friends with some of them.  

Ask “what are we?” or keep it casual?:

I ask”what are we?” When I met Justin I wanted a relationship. I was tired of fooling around. I wanted more than that. I didn’t ask Justin on the first few dates but as I met his best friend and he met my family we decided to see where it went. Over four years later I’m still with him today.