AITA: Part Two
- Catherine Moscatt
- 2 days ago
- 5 min read
r/AmItheAsshole • 3h ago
AITA for not allowing my ex-maid of honor be a bridesmaid?
Quick Backstory: My fiancé (m33) and I (f29) are getting married in Sept 26’. Our friends [fake names] Stan (m34) and Zoe (f33) just got married May 25’. We asked Stan and Zoe to be our BM and MOH, they both said yes.
In June my MOH calls and says she cant be my MOH anymore due to some health issues. Also she has to avoid stress, and isn't sure if she'd be able to handle the wedding planning and her own medical bills.
I tell her that if she still wants to be included or be a bridesmaid to keep me posted
Aug. 7th I ask my sister to be my new MOH.
The end of Aug. I check in with Zoe. She responds with “--the procedure went well I am still waiting on the official results, but the nurse said things looked good, so I am optimistic.”
I heard nothing after that and got my last brides maid in Sept.
November 4th Stan and Zoe reach out asking if Zoe is a bridesmaid?
I said "I already have my Bridal Party. We wanted you to take a break for your health. You're more than invited to all the events, so you can just have fun and dont have to worry about planning”
Zoe's response “While I appreciate you considering my health I'm extremely hurt that you couldn't just text me. I don't even know how to process our relationship. I would have never done this to you.”
My fiancé says the four of us need to meet up to discuss this. We wanted to talk in person. Stan argues that they want to talk over the phone [We live in the same neighborhood and past their house every morning to take our dog on a walk]
Finally Stan responds by saying “- - you don't see just how hurt Zoe and I are by all of this. We have decided to cut ties with both of you.”
We have not spoken since. Am I the asshole?
TLDR: MOH backs out of my wedding due to health reasons. After not hearing any updates I filled my bridal party. She flipped out cause she wasn't included. Now her husband and her aren't friends with us
Oooo, wedding tea. Weddings are supposed to be a joyous occasion but unfortunately they usually end up with confusion and drama. My verdict is not the asshole. You could have asked Zoe if she felt comfortable being a bridesmaid but you were on a time crunch and most importantly, trying to respect her health which is clearly important to you. In my opinion you were trying to be a good friend. You are not a mind reader. You did not know Zoe’s health would improve or that she would be well enough to be a bridesmaid. In my opinion, Zoe and her husband are acting extremely mature. I’m sorry you have to go through this so close to your wedding. Not the asshole.
AITA for telling my dad’s girlfriend to leave when my friends are over?
I (16M) live with my dad and his girlfriend (32F) and normally things are fine but whenever I have my friends over she’s always around trying to join in on everything we’re doing and it makes me feel like I can’t just hang out and be myself. The other day I had a few friends over and she came into the room joking and talking with us like she was one of my friends and I just told her maybe she should leave the house when my friends are over. She looked hurt and left and I felt bad immediately but at the same time I also feel like it’s my house too and I should be able to have some privacy with my friends. My dad told me I could have said it nicer and that I shouldn’t make her feel unwelcome but I’m just not sure if I was wrong for saying what I said.
It does ring alarm bells that a 32 woman wants to pal around with a bunch of teenage boys. Do they give her attention? How does she behave with them? It is interesting that you said “leave the house” and not just “leave the room” Is there a specific reason for that? You are entitled to privacy and time with your friends. How does you dad feel that she’s always hanging out with your friends? Does it not bother him at all? Not the asshole.
r/AmItheAsshole • 10h ago
AITA for not acting excited enough when opening my birthday gifts?
Today was my (16F) birthday, and I get stressed out opening gifts in front of my family because I’m not able to perform the level of excitement they expect, and it’s a huge problem every year. They want me to jump up and down and cry, and my reactions are not extreme enough for them.
My mom especially will always film the birthday videos to post on Facebook, and she gets mad when everyone doesn’t sing happy birthday perfectly in sync, which causing screaming arguments with my dad.
So that happened, and my dad was angry that she kept making everyone re-sing it over and over again, causing the candles to melt all over the cake. Then he stormed off before I opened my presents.
I opened the gift from my mom, which was a waxing kit for waxing your legs, but I don’t even shave my legs so I was like “oh! This is such an interesting gift! How did you come up with this?” She was filming my reaction to post on Facebook, and I didn’t get excited enough, so she got mad and was like “what, you don’t like it? I’ll just take it back then?” I was like, “No, I’m just wondering what made you decide to get this.” She then turned off the camera and was crying dramatically, saying to herself “how did I raise a daughter like this.”
This kind of always happens, and I asked why she always has to cry and ruin it every year. She said “I guess I’m just the worst mom ever then” and walked away.
If this is a genuine post, OP I feel for you. You must hate your birthdays. Especially if your mother gets you a fucking waxing kit. The only way that gift would be worse is if she got you a bikini wax. I’m so sorry there is so much anger and selfishness on the part of your parents on what is supposed to be your special day. Not the asshole at all and I’m really sorry your birthdays are like that.
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