10 Mistakes Unhappy People Make

            1000 Little Things Happy Successful People Do Differently

                                                   10 Mistakes Unhappy People Make

1. Thinking you have already missed your chance

I’m only 29! I have my whole life to write more books, move out on my own, get married and soak in the wisdom of a lifetime

2. Used failed relationships as an excuse

What defines a “failed” relationship? A relationship that didn’t last? I believe each relationship is like scaffolding and helps build a platform for your next relationship. I’ve been in an uncommon amount of relationships, usually short lived but I feel like they have all contributed something to my current relationship with the man I strongly believe I am going to marry. So never let a failed relationship be the reason you give up on love. Or friendship.

3. Changing who you are to satisfy others

I did  this once in eighth grade. I like that I went out of my comfort zone and I definitely thought I made a fashionable goth. But I only did it to impress a boy and his friends (a group of seniors). Turns out they did accept me….but only when I was wearing black.

4. Putting up with negative people and negative thinking

Ex. my ex roommate and serial  backstabber Samantha

I have also noticed that people who make a big deal of “avoiding drama” and claim to hate are the  people who tend to attract it the most. Funny how it works.

5. Focusing all your attention on a different time and place

Focus on now: Dad in the shower, Mom is at Kohl’s buying a hat for Cape Cod, Justin’s at work. It feels like I should report on the whereabouts of Scout but we all know why thats not going to happen.

6. Overlooking what you have to focus on what you don’t

Things I’m Focusing On That I Am Grateful For:

• A gym membership

• Dad made me extra coffee

• I got a new book from the library (What We Don’t Talk About When We Talk About Fat in case you cared)

• Fresh clean sheets and an entourage of stuffed animals

• Youtube (thats my streaming service) 

• All the support I’m getting from family and friends

7. Dwelling on things you can’t change

Things I Can’t Change (even though I desperately want to)

• Scout’s death (and Susie’s death while we are at it)

• The fact that my antidepressants usually tip me into a manic episode. So basically medicating me is like a complicated dance. 

• The fact that I never graduated college with my friends

8. Constantly Sacrifices Your Own Happiness for Everyone Else

I don’t really do this. Maybe that’s because I’m selfish. I don’t pretend to be happy when I’m not even though I totally could (I’m a great actress). I’m not saying my happiness comes first. I’m just saying I don’t want to shove it to the back of the line/

9. Losing track of your goals and deeds

I speak plenty on this blog about my goals and ideals. I’m sure you know most of them. Right now I’m working on a book of short stories (tentatively named All Smiles) which I will actually publish under my own name since I am not disclosing mine or anyone else’s secrets. My goal is to have it out  by January.

10. Dealing with the stress of deceiving others. 

Life is much more relaxing when you don’t have to worry about being “found out”. With deceit comes guilt and anxiety and nothing wears you down more than that. I’m honest with my parents and Justin. And myself. You should never deceive yourself.