Happiness Letter B

    Benevolence

What situations get on your nerves in particular?

• When people are talking on the phone in the gym

• Beautiful girls wearing almost nothing (that used to be me!)

With your partner?

• Our differing views on controversial topics

• Not being in love with my cat

With your child?

• N/A (no kids)

With another person

• My mom telling me I look homeless because I’m wearing two different socks

What happens of you change your outlook and decided to look at the actions of the person through benevolence? I shouldn’t get mad at Justin for having an  opinion just as he doesn’t get mad at me for having an opinion. The fact is controversial topics are controversial for a reason. He is a good person and he wants to help people; we just disagree about the best way to accomplish this. He doesn’t hold my opinions against me.

                                                    Breathing

Under what circumstances did your breathing help you overcome your difficulties?There was one time I was having a panic attack at work (I was literally was clutching the floor) when Anthony helped out. He got me through the situation with good old fashioned grounding and told me he once went home  because of a panic attack. Fortunately this was the end of my shift. Later I would go on to have frequent attacks at work.