While we would like to think life is just a big game of attracting fans and friends, we briefly learn (somewhere between the sandbox and the Legos) that this is not always the case. It is a hard concept. It is a hard concept to grasp that some people will judge you for your class, sexuality, race, religion or for a parent’s profession. Or they just hate you because you give too many hugs, dated their boyfriend or burn stuff all night long so we can’t have our windows open at night (this is all hypothetical by the way). It is common for one person to dislike someone that dislikes them. Some (mature) people keep their dislike hidden so as not to put mutual friends in a difficult place. This is known as sainthood. But when they embarrass you, dismiss you and publicly exclude you, this turns from “one person disliking the other person to mutual enemies” (or maybe “mortal enemies” if it gets bad enough). I try not to get too political on this blog but in this age it is not merely people who dislike each other. Groups are pinned against each other. I’m not saying we shouldn’t have groups of similar interests and values. But having relations with people who feel only like you do isn’t healthy. It’s limiting. Or you can be fucking mature and act like you aren’t six years old in the sandbox.
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