Snip and Tip Tuesday

Here’s to bring you back some wisdom that is not my own. But first, I got a job. I got a job. Six years it took me to apply for a job not because I didn’t think I would get the job but because I knew I probably would. My resume is stacked and I have done a great job at every job I’ve been at- besides the habit of leaving mysteriously usually without giving notice. My bosses usually forgave me and in one case offered to take me back or change my position. I’m going to be working at a senior living facility. I might write about my programs (I’m on the activities board) but I’m going to keep my work life quiet save for the occasional funny anecdote. I believe in keeping people’s privacy. 

• “In one study greater frequency of social contact with friends, neighbors, or relatives was positively related to physical health. But the positive association was reduced when the frequency was greater than several times a month” 

 Attributed to Psychology Today

This isn’t great news for me because I find myself socializing (usually with friends) about half the week. Wednesdays is usually DND, Thursday my best friend and I meet for poetry or I attend a poetry group, weekends are usually a toss up between slams, open mics and other fun adventurers (for example on Sunday I went bowling) Not to mention knitting, book club, birthday parties and girls night in. And I’m sorry, Psychology Today. I won’t change my ways. 

• “I always have the feeling that I should be working”

            Attributed to I can’t remember

It is really hard for  me to relax and do something that doesn’t have an explicit purpose. I wear myself out and make myself cranky because I  have all these crafts and pressures that I do not give myself permission to pursue Usually my goal is towards publication or working on my poetry so I can place in the next slam. That’s not always relaxing and now that I just got this new job I can’t stop envisioning new potential programs and how I can pull them off. I had a massage today (rare. An Easter present from my mom) and my thoughts would not shut up once.

• “Essays are truly about rewriting and rewriting. If you think its finished, ir probably isn’t- unless you’ve done at least 10 versions”

Attributed to I can’t remember

Essays are my favorite thing to write. Well, essays and poetry. I know I am a decent poet but I am certainly much better at prose. If only I could find a competition where we could we read essays. I write essays because I’m good at it,  I write poetry because I can express myself. But a raw essay isn’t much. It takes alot of molding and reshaping to get that final project.

• “How does someone prepare for a real life leap of faith? How can those who’ve been hurt learn to trust again, deep in their bones” 

Attributed to Psychology Today

When I met Justin I was moving very very carefully. Honestly if it didn’t work out I probably would have given up for a long, long time. My ex and I broke up in 2019. I took two FWBs but I wasn’t  in love with either of them and I knew the feeling was mutual. Eventually one ghosted me. The other got in a serious relationship. I guarded my heart during covid. I couldn’t see myself in love with anybody. Eventually, I came around to the idea that there might be someone out there for me. And when I met Justin I tread carefully. Turns out Justin was that someone.

• “Writing is my job and I go to my desk every day around 10 am whether I’m writing fiction, the history  of poker or anything else”

            Attributed to I don’t remember

If you are a writer you can easily slide into a role as an expert. It’s important writers do research to make the story more realistic (or even unrealistic) and allow your reader to slide into the world you portray.